Perception Filter

I am completely aware that I am living in a golden time, my son’s infancy. I reckon its more of a gift to the us the parents at this stage because he is still so young he won’t remember any of his beautiful beginning.

My wife and I have been always careful to be present, because complacency would have it that we dwell on all the wrong things until he leaves the nest and leaves us with avoidable regret.

Basically, enjoy it all because the moments pass by so quickly. “100 Ways To Take Better Photographs” by Michael Busselle in chapter 7 is “use a fast shutter speed to freeze movement”  which in practice ends up freezing moments. It’s one of the skills I’ve gotten good at. Since starting this photographic crusade.

Chapter 11 of “100 Ways To Take Better Photographs” by Michael Busselle is “use a warm-up filter”. It says something along the lines of our eyes compensate for the variation in colour but the picture of the same shot we’ve seen with our eyes will be faithfully captured by the camera.

My wife and argued this point because she said she looked paler than what she was in many shots and I agreed saying I looked as distorted and angular as a minecraft character. Looks and best angles aside, we both agreed we were happy that we had captured so much of his budding months.

Elizabeth Pantley’s “Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night the no_cry sleep solution” has a very sweet paragraph that encapsulates the whole experience. It reads as follows : “If you can, and when you can, put your baby down so that he learns she is able to sleep alone, as well as in your arms. And when you don’t put her down, hold her with your heart, too, and relish every gurgle, flutter and little sighing breath. Trust me when I say, ‘You will miss this’. You will. Even the dark, exhausted nights will take on a certain romance in your memories, and they’ll bubble to the surface when your ‘baby‘ drives off in his first car, graduates from school, gets married, and has his own baby. “

I must admit it’s all still vivid right now fo us, the rose tinted glasses have  been delivered to the wrong address (lol). I guess that can’t be helped, we’re in the midst of it right now. But I do feel as though snippets of moments are being weaved together for that moment of nostalgia that runs across the mind like a cinematic montage from one of those warm and fuzzy coming of age films we love to watch. Whether we appreciate how we look in the shots or not the film is still rolling, life, by God’s grace, is still ongoing.

It’s partly why I avoid going to the cinema on multiple occasions, I prefer to watch deeply once, like life, you only get one go round. The closest thing we have to a rewatch are our reminiscent fragments of media and memorabilia, and of course, our pictures.

And just like all the less than well reviewed films that gain a cult following and appreciation, our less than flattering snaps of the magnificent moments will grow in value and richness, as the past pays that present forward with something close to time travel, our pictures- the crystallised fragments of yesterday, suddenly a lot shinier than we remember.

Follow a Shooting Regime

“100 Ways To Take Better Photographs” by Michael Busselle was consulted today once more as my photograph taking instruction bible. Chapter 10 pretty much encapsulated the theme for this week ; follow a Shooting regime.

Both in pictures and in organising my day to day I’ve been off form. I haven’t taken nearly enough pictures to satisfy my ambitious aim of ten a day. I have not had the best time at organising life either.

The week has been chaotic, the pin board has not yet been arranged to act as my outer- body- brain and our work and home commiments have caught me in a precarious pincer, threatening to crush me.

The past few days have been a combination of trial and error, grinding ot results, keeping calm and carrying on, absolutely breaking down and whitening hair via stress and everyone’s favorite, stress eating.

All that to say, we’ve finally got a regime going that like any good game of Jenga, is helping us build the rest of our day/evening from the ground up. Little fatty is in bad earlier and more content, mum and dad get to hug each other, have dinner and have even found time to watch a new series.

Following a Shooting regime is a matter of discipline and belief. Discipline because there are days where it just doesn’t seem like it’s all going to come together. Belief because you ha e to believe its going to make a difference and as a rule of thumb if you believe in something you tend to put you’re all into it.

Tomorrow is a new day Godwilling and I will be spending it, taking as much snaps as possible and then rinse and repeat the following day. As Zig Ziglar says ; “Repetition is the mother of learning, the father of action, which makes it the architect of accomplishment.”

Best of The Bunch

Much like a camera we’re both still trying to get to terms with just how much “stuff” the little one comes with. Obviously toys, clothes he has outgrown, a baby bouncer, a crib he ironically rarely uses in the wake of his co-sleeping with mummy, a billion nappies and even more wet wipes, three baths because (why not), Baby bath time products (that out number a city metrosexual) and as of today a family of rubber duckies.

We have a number of books on babies and pregnancy, none of which we actually read. It was more of a security buy to feel remotely prepared for the unknown. Much like our birth plan, it went off the beaten track and 90% of what we said we were going to do was ignored in favour of in-the-moment practicality.

One book I’ve been reading, to give my wife the TLDR (too long didn’t read) version, is Elizabeth Pantley’s “Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night the no_cry sleep solution”. It’s so far a very empathetic, knowledgeable and enlightening read that is equipping us with some new tactics to rearrange how we approach getting the little one to sleep without constant night waking.

The days I had off were meant to be spent practising my snapping skills but I was lucky if I got a hug with my wife before he started crying so we have been taking daily walks to the park and visits to the local diner for brunch and coffee (not for the baby, he doesn’t need any!).

I managed to grab a few shots with baby and mummy but to be honest most were breastfeeding shots that were not appropriate for the Internet. Chapter 4 of “Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night the no_cry sleep solution” is “Review and choose sleep solutions” which like our parenting has been an agreed upon mantra of sorts. Do our best and pivot where necessary. It has meant being open-minded to suggestions and confident in our own descion making in equal measure.

Everyone has an opinion but we don’t need to validate everyone, we’re here to do our best in the role. Much like my snaps, I take 10 plus somti.es more and pick the best from the bunch. We aren’t perfect and neither were or parents but they did their best. We’ll pick what works and perfect it.

In Frame

As I write this our son is groaning and grunting in his battle to extract milk from mummy’s breast. He’s punching her boob with a flailing chubby fist like a student attempting to Jimmy a broken vending machine. His frustration and challenge mirrors ours, it’s been so trying

I haven’t reffered to my photograph taking manual tonight because its been such a long day and this evening I’m looking forward to relaxing with my wife and son.

It been quite a challenging month and a week for my wife in the sleep department so we’re trying a new schedule to hopefully be more efficient and snyc with the chubby one.

At work the following morning I refer to “100 Ways To Take Better Pbotographs” by Michael Busselle because not being consistent grates me. Chapter 5′ instruction is to use exposure compensation which in the chapter basically means taking the picture you want is about balancing the dark and the light in your shot.

Balance is something I feel we’ve been lacking with everything seemingly happening all at once. Having a schedule, a framework is already giving us the confidence to keep thing manageable dare I say enjoyable.

With picture taking its been no different. The many ways you can take one and all the jargon involved just felt like over complicating a process that’s already subject to so many variables. Remembering this new rule will help remind me that the infrastructure is there to help me take a good picture not hinder me.

I’ll be taking more pictures this weekend with invigorated zeal and optimism. Remembering to keep things within the frame of the lens will stop us both from spiralling out of control and remind us that we are capable and that we can confidently parent our way.

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A Shot With A View

Honestly speaking I didn’t think this through. I should have contacted Michael Busselle, author of “100 Ways To Take Better Photographs” and discussed a royalty pay out to yours truly, considering I’ve technically been plugging his book and will be plugging his book throughout my photographic adventure. Dollar aside, I love the book’s straightforward, anti-pseudo-intellectual approach of potent bullet pointed morsels of instruction.

The opening sentence reads; “It’s easy to think of the view finder as simply a means of aiming the camera, but it’s much more creative to think of it as the photographer’s ‘canvas’, a space to be filled in the most pleasing and striking way possible” . It’s Sunday morning and I haven’t slept all night, I’m running on coffee and inspiration. I spent all night writing and half an hour of the early morning attempting to unblock my partners milk duct. Oh the joys of breast feeding. I throw on some clothes and bundle our son into the pram to get him into the daylight and hopefully off to sleep to give mummy a reprieve and our ears some rest. It works and an hour later he’s snoozing in his pram in the lobby while I fan the glowing embers of a coffee high still in its infancy.

My wife says we’re meeting her cousin and her cousin’s partner and that today will be a relatively mellow one. While I am listening of course I am also simultaneously admiring her face and figure. It dawns on me that my bias as her ever-adoring husband is getting in the way of taking technically good photos. It isn’t enough for her to look stunning, although that is a given, but my regard for the rest of the canvas needs to be more acute.

The viewfinder was always a pointing mechanism for me, the whole point and shoot philosophy is hard to unlearn but this was always about slowing down to take notice of the surrounding area. My wife says I tidy up too thoroughly and her chaos is in fact organised chaos and she knows exactly where everything is. It’s a loving point of contention that is a source of mild frustration and hilarity. I want the visual canvas to be perfect, out of sight out of mind. There must surely be a correlation between organising ones own habitat before venturing into the world each morning. Jordan Peterson’ sage voice echoes in my mind “tidy your room”.

We meet her cousin Keith and his partner Kate and swap nappies and bears for trees, hills and sunshine. The importance of swapping settings is important for mental health, being stuck in all day is no good. After we fight ecah other for five minutes over who gets coffee, my wife wins and several lattes later we are sat at a poppy monument that’s catching the sun perfectly.

I tentatively aim my viewfinder with a little more purpose and fit everyone into a shot with a background that isn’t distracting but interesting. The tidy tendency wants to get a more organised background but like many beautiful things, life is messy. You don’t always get to choose what’s in the background but you do get to appreciate who is in the forefront.

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